Men and men used to be good friend, or close friends. We were so close a friend that we shower in a same tub; rub lotion on each other's back; slap other on the butt as often as high-fives. Me and my boys were so friendly and had so much fun. Until one day...
A loner come to our town. He didn't have any guy to hug. He was a true gay person (who has sexual feeling for man, or homosexual). When he saw us hugging, he said: "that's so gay." and guess what? we stop hugging.
we stop going to the mall together; stop buying each other drinks after work; stop taking shower together; stop caring for each other. We stop doing anything fun between guys, just because of the sentence: "that's so gay."
Actually it wasn't gay at all. It is only gay, if one thinks gayly. It's never gay to take a bath with your fellow friend if you don't think about touching his penis. It's not gay to slap your teammate in the butt if it doesn't arouse you. People who stop doing all those guy-friendly things are because they are partially gay (research shows that everyone have a gay said. But the non-gay people are dominated by their heterosexual sense), and afraid they can't control their urge. For a straight guy like you and me, you should never hesitate to tickle your guy-friends, and care for them.
Girl do all those girl-friendly things because they don't care if people call them lesbian. Why can't guy do the same? Is it because guys also like lesbian female? But girl only like gay guy as a friend and guy don't want the girl to think they're gay. There a famous saying that goes like this: one who afraid other calling him gay is or might be gay Or he is self-conscious. Being called gay for guys is like being called fat for girl.
Guy or Girl: "Hey girl, you look fat"
Girl checking out the mirror: "omg. am i really fat?"
Guy or Girl: "Dude, you're so gay"
Guy goes to watch straight porn: "Am i really gay? .. "
Conclusion: Don't be self-conscious. Go do all those 'gay' thing, if you know you are not gay. And for all those hater, stop saying "this is so gay", because you only say that if you are gay.
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Sunday, May 17, 2009
Monday, June 30, 2008
Heartbroken
Normally, I don't talk about myself in this blog, but today I'll make a exceptional.
I am heart broken, as the title of this blog hinted. She left me on Thursday June 26th 2008. Right after our dinner, she walked out on me. She said we need to take a break from each other. She didn't said we're over, but obviously that's what she meant.
It was our third date, I was planning to propose to her that night as i finally found she really is. I guess I found out too late. I should have treated her better on our first and second date. I wanted to ask her why and beg her to take consider, but word didn't come out of my mouth. All I said was "I'll wait for your calls; Thanks for you time." And then we apart.
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I met her online at a dating site. She was really cute and definitely my type. I called her on the 20th as soon as i saw her profile. I emailed her my photo, and we chatted for hours. She wanted to meet me in person to make sure I am really who I am. I put a suit on and went over to her place the next day. She wasn't living by herself. When I get there, her dad opens up the door. I talked to her dad a while and her dad told me she wasn't going to be back in 2 hour. Her dad and I were out of topic to talk about. It wasn't like Her and me, where we can talk about anything. Out presence and long moment of silence soon become awkward. So I begin to leave. Her dad ensure me that She will call immediately after she got home.
A day past, I still haven't heard from her. I begin to worry. I called her cell phone, her dad pick up again. Said she forget to bring her cell with her. I really start to worry. Either she doesn't like the way I look in person or She and her dad is the same person. I wait and wait. And finally she called! I have missed her so much not talking to her for 2 day. We talked hours on the phone and we planned out first date.
First time seeing her, I didn't know what to do. I stood there like a dumb ass as if I never dated before. We hang around for 7 hours till we part out way home. "I can't wait to see you again, meet tomorrow?" we agree.
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That's how it begin and that was how it ended. I should hope she call me back next week. Sure hope that she can't live without me. However in the mean time, I can't sit around and wait for her to come back. I got to find a new girl.
Okay, I think you got a wrong idea about me. This girl, this baby, is not a human. It is simply an idea, a metaphor, a job. And as for every blog, I do not talk about myself only. I write to share information with you. Like every relationship, there is flaws and [something opposite of flaws]. I did learn some lesson from her and I wanted to share with you and mainly I wanted to write it down so i don't forget.
Need to be annoying. keep calling and calling until she agree to go out with you.
Find out who is her dad.
Lie to her dad. Act polite, smart, mature and experienced.
Do not let you and her have nothing to do, always find work to do.
Following there step will help you get laid. ;p of course not.
I am heart broken, as the title of this blog hinted. She left me on Thursday June 26th 2008. Right after our dinner, she walked out on me. She said we need to take a break from each other. She didn't said we're over, but obviously that's what she meant.
It was our third date, I was planning to propose to her that night as i finally found she really is. I guess I found out too late. I should have treated her better on our first and second date. I wanted to ask her why and beg her to take consider, but word didn't come out of my mouth. All I said was "I'll wait for your calls; Thanks for you time." And then we apart.
~~~
I met her online at a dating site. She was really cute and definitely my type. I called her on the 20th as soon as i saw her profile. I emailed her my photo, and we chatted for hours. She wanted to meet me in person to make sure I am really who I am. I put a suit on and went over to her place the next day. She wasn't living by herself. When I get there, her dad opens up the door. I talked to her dad a while and her dad told me she wasn't going to be back in 2 hour. Her dad and I were out of topic to talk about. It wasn't like Her and me, where we can talk about anything. Out presence and long moment of silence soon become awkward. So I begin to leave. Her dad ensure me that She will call immediately after she got home.
A day past, I still haven't heard from her. I begin to worry. I called her cell phone, her dad pick up again. Said she forget to bring her cell with her. I really start to worry. Either she doesn't like the way I look in person or She and her dad is the same person. I wait and wait. And finally she called! I have missed her so much not talking to her for 2 day. We talked hours on the phone and we planned out first date.
First time seeing her, I didn't know what to do. I stood there like a dumb ass as if I never dated before. We hang around for 7 hours till we part out way home. "I can't wait to see you again, meet tomorrow?" we agree.
~~
That's how it begin and that was how it ended. I should hope she call me back next week. Sure hope that she can't live without me. However in the mean time, I can't sit around and wait for her to come back. I got to find a new girl.
Okay, I think you got a wrong idea about me. This girl, this baby, is not a human. It is simply an idea, a metaphor, a job. And as for every blog, I do not talk about myself only. I write to share information with you. Like every relationship, there is flaws and [something opposite of flaws]. I did learn some lesson from her and I wanted to share with you and mainly I wanted to write it down so i don't forget.
Need to be annoying. keep calling and calling until she agree to go out with you.
Find out who is her dad.
Lie to her dad. Act polite, smart, mature and experienced.
Do not let you and her have nothing to do, always find work to do.
Following there step will help you get laid. ;p of course not.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Cross-Gender Friendship
Is it possible for a male and female to be bestfriend?
The answer would be no according to Hollywood producer and Ladder Theory.
Hollywood producer seem to never had any cross gender best friend. Either because they really feel that the society is this way, or that they think the story would be creative that every best friends fall in love with each other. Every movie I have watched, male and female become bestfriend, they date other person and then broke up and then they realized that they needed each other and that they are madly in love. When can those bestfriends not turn their friendship into love? Or is friendship and lovemate two inseparable thing?
Could the Hollywood, or media, be right? Maybe marring bestfriend is this best thing. Maybe friend means same-gender friend; love means cross-gender friend? maybe?
According to the Ladder Theory (i am too lazy to put link here, but u can can Google it and am sure you'll find a lot of information on it), guy only have one ladder, which is the sex ladder. He'll 'do' any one in his ladder which include friends, bestfriend, when given the opportunities. I read the Ladder in detail today, and it was far from the truth. So i won't comment any further.
So back to the main question: man and woman bestfriend? I am sure it is possible since there are 2 billion people (or 13 billion? i forget o.O) on this earth, there would be 1 billion (or 6.5 billion if there are 13 billion) possibility for a man and woman to be bestfriend. I am still young, and not sure if I'll fall for my bestfriend, as what every guy do in movies, so I won't be bias.
Closing,
Just want to tell you that you don't have to marry your bestfriend because you see everyone is doing it on movie. Do not let the movie affect your life!
The answer would be no according to Hollywood producer and Ladder Theory.
Hollywood producer seem to never had any cross gender best friend. Either because they really feel that the society is this way, or that they think the story would be creative that every best friends fall in love with each other. Every movie I have watched, male and female become bestfriend, they date other person and then broke up and then they realized that they needed each other and that they are madly in love. When can those bestfriends not turn their friendship into love? Or is friendship and lovemate two inseparable thing?
Could the Hollywood, or media, be right? Maybe marring bestfriend is this best thing. Maybe friend means same-gender friend; love means cross-gender friend? maybe?
According to the Ladder Theory (i am too lazy to put link here, but u can can Google it and am sure you'll find a lot of information on it), guy only have one ladder, which is the sex ladder. He'll 'do' any one in his ladder which include friends, bestfriend, when given the opportunities. I read the Ladder in detail today, and it was far from the truth. So i won't comment any further.
So back to the main question: man and woman bestfriend? I am sure it is possible since there are 2 billion people (or 13 billion? i forget o.O) on this earth, there would be 1 billion (or 6.5 billion if there are 13 billion) possibility for a man and woman to be bestfriend. I am still young, and not sure if I'll fall for my bestfriend, as what every guy do in movies, so I won't be bias.
Closing,
Just want to tell you that you don't have to marry your bestfriend because you see everyone is doing it on movie. Do not let the movie affect your life!
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Plastic Surgery is Ungodly
Plastic Surgery is wrong in many ways. I hope this has already been a universal fact that everyone would agree with me without me explaining any further. However, i highly doubt that everyone would have the same opinion as I do. So without any further ado, I give you the evil of plastic surgery.
(For who those believe in god,) God created us based on how he want us to look. He give everyone a special task, the ugly, the pretty, to be unique in earth. God is not imperfect by making you fat and/or ugly. God did it purposely so you can show what beauty is. Without ugliness, there would be prettiness; the world needs opposition. 'Why is God so unfair' you might think. But, never forget God give everyone a special assignment. You will be rewarded if you done yours right. So by alternating your looks, making small boobs into bigger one, adding an extra boobs, and reshaping your triangular face (oh yeah, plastic surgery don't only happen in boob, whole body can be a plastic!!!), you are denying god.
If that doesn't convince you (or if you don't believe in god), consider this: plastic surgery destroy love and marriage. It have always been a trouble in the heart in searching for the right girl ( in a guy's perspective). There are so many factor to consider. Sometime looks is 100% factor for some people, other maybe 50%, and those who are blind(literally) maybe 10% (they still want to feel the shape thou). So look matter. Let said, you found a beautiful chick and you guys been going out for a while, she feel secure with you and feel like she can tell you anything. So you told you that she have a plastic surgery when she is 14, and that she is made of plastic. You found out he hand you hold, the mouth you kissed, the face you looked at is a doll made by a doctor. I can't say how you will react, but I'll feel that I have been cheated. Under the layer of plastic skin, she is a ugly girl, but that's not the case because for some people looks don't matter. What is important is that you have been going out with a plastic bag. I'll be piss.
A little story: I had a Korean friend who told me that almost everyone older than age 14 in Korea have gone through plastic surgery. I was shock. And he add, even guys too. I fainted. "There was this guy and this girl, they look exactly the same. it was then found out that they have the same surgery doctor." I also learn that when you get to 40ish, there will be a lot of winkles.
I have no clue how the plastic surgery work, so don't ask me, maybe i should start researching. Don't meant to discriminate anyone here. (to those plastic) If God won't take you, and I don't take you, there is still a lot of people who will take you ;]
(For who those believe in god,) God created us based on how he want us to look. He give everyone a special task, the ugly, the pretty, to be unique in earth. God is not imperfect by making you fat and/or ugly. God did it purposely so you can show what beauty is. Without ugliness, there would be prettiness; the world needs opposition. 'Why is God so unfair' you might think. But, never forget God give everyone a special assignment. You will be rewarded if you done yours right. So by alternating your looks, making small boobs into bigger one, adding an extra boobs, and reshaping your triangular face (oh yeah, plastic surgery don't only happen in boob, whole body can be a plastic!!!), you are denying god.
If that doesn't convince you (or if you don't believe in god), consider this: plastic surgery destroy love and marriage. It have always been a trouble in the heart in searching for the right girl ( in a guy's perspective). There are so many factor to consider. Sometime looks is 100% factor for some people, other maybe 50%, and those who are blind(literally) maybe 10% (they still want to feel the shape thou). So look matter. Let said, you found a beautiful chick and you guys been going out for a while, she feel secure with you and feel like she can tell you anything. So you told you that she have a plastic surgery when she is 14, and that she is made of plastic. You found out he hand you hold, the mouth you kissed, the face you looked at is a doll made by a doctor. I can't say how you will react, but I'll feel that I have been cheated. Under the layer of plastic skin, she is a ugly girl, but that's not the case because for some people looks don't matter. What is important is that you have been going out with a plastic bag. I'll be piss.
A little story: I had a Korean friend who told me that almost everyone older than age 14 in Korea have gone through plastic surgery. I was shock. And he add, even guys too. I fainted. "There was this guy and this girl, they look exactly the same. it was then found out that they have the same surgery doctor." I also learn that when you get to 40ish, there will be a lot of winkles.
I have no clue how the plastic surgery work, so don't ask me, maybe i should start researching. Don't meant to discriminate anyone here. (to those plastic) If God won't take you, and I don't take you, there is still a lot of people who will take you ;]
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Danger: Shallow Water - no diving
Shallow is famously used to describe the depth of water and a (stupid?) person. persons who are describe as shallow are define as materialist and not profound, only care about the outer looks. a well example is in a relationship, when a guy say his girlfriend must be sexy, nice boob, apple bottom, cokacola, few nerd/geek/profound-person would mark that guy in the shallow list. of course same things with the girls too. one would have to say 'oh, she have to be sophisticated, care for animal, nice to people' and this guy would get a high rating.
I used to be the nerd who said all those thing: 'looks doesn't really matter, it is the inner self that count'. However after few year until i go to college and experience some experiences in life, i found that i can't be more wrong. i was dead wrong. what is the difference between a girlfriend and a bestfriend? it depend on the person. but if you ugly and have good personality, and all you want to do is talk and not touch, then be their best friend.
"Love at First Sight"- i would discuss if it is truth or not, but a lot of people feel that way. However, isn't such love based on the physical appearance as well? it is even worse-it is only based on the first look. where those the personality come in? well so maybe we can define those 'love at first sight' people as shallow as well.
Now lets talk about feeling and connection. "When i am with her i feel connective to her, I got this feeling that i can say anything." my advice is: be friend. Do you have the feeling that you want to be inside of her? If that's so, then she must have what you define as beautiful. Beauty is not universal. Everyone have their own taste. so if she does have good personality and do look good to your definition, then yes, marriage is a good idea. However, the point i am trying to make is that look does play a big role in a intermate relationship.
Now we come to the the part of shallow people. shallow people thinks that the girl just have to look good, personality don't matter. However they are not truthly shallow. they just have made a big distinction between friend and girl. when looking for friend, they look at their personality and their preferring style. Girl are a trophy. Chase for the excitement and win it to show off. A ugly, non-shining trophy would not get much of a attention. Just because their view of beauty is different from ours or yours, doesn't give us the right to name calling. If we can't even get this fact right, we would really be the shallow one, not them.
Call me shallow or not, but i think the shallow people are actually right. Girl and friend are and should be separative. they can be connect to be girlfriend, which so would require both the quality of a good looking girl, and a quality of good friend. There are so many people in this world. there are at least 10 percent (probably more) that interest you non physically. and then inside the 10 percent, there are at least 1 percent that do look good to your view and taste. 1 percent of the 10 percent in this world is still a huge number. there are a great chance that you'll find someone that you like and love. Do not mistake your friend to be your lover. if you don't think they look good, they are not your lover. And do remember beauty is not universal. So you think that i am tell you to skinny people look like movie star. Find one suit your taste.
I used to be the nerd who said all those thing: 'looks doesn't really matter, it is the inner self that count'. However after few year until i go to college and experience some experiences in life, i found that i can't be more wrong. i was dead wrong. what is the difference between a girlfriend and a bestfriend? it depend on the person. but if you ugly and have good personality, and all you want to do is talk and not touch, then be their best friend.
"Love at First Sight"- i would discuss if it is truth or not, but a lot of people feel that way. However, isn't such love based on the physical appearance as well? it is even worse-it is only based on the first look. where those the personality come in? well so maybe we can define those 'love at first sight' people as shallow as well.
Now lets talk about feeling and connection. "When i am with her i feel connective to her, I got this feeling that i can say anything." my advice is: be friend. Do you have the feeling that you want to be inside of her? If that's so, then she must have what you define as beautiful. Beauty is not universal. Everyone have their own taste. so if she does have good personality and do look good to your definition, then yes, marriage is a good idea. However, the point i am trying to make is that look does play a big role in a intermate relationship.
Now we come to the the part of shallow people. shallow people thinks that the girl just have to look good, personality don't matter. However they are not truthly shallow. they just have made a big distinction between friend and girl. when looking for friend, they look at their personality and their preferring style. Girl are a trophy. Chase for the excitement and win it to show off. A ugly, non-shining trophy would not get much of a attention. Just because their view of beauty is different from ours or yours, doesn't give us the right to name calling. If we can't even get this fact right, we would really be the shallow one, not them.
Call me shallow or not, but i think the shallow people are actually right. Girl and friend are and should be separative. they can be connect to be girlfriend, which so would require both the quality of a good looking girl, and a quality of good friend. There are so many people in this world. there are at least 10 percent (probably more) that interest you non physically. and then inside the 10 percent, there are at least 1 percent that do look good to your view and taste. 1 percent of the 10 percent in this world is still a huge number. there are a great chance that you'll find someone that you like and love. Do not mistake your friend to be your lover. if you don't think they look good, they are not your lover. And do remember beauty is not universal. So you think that i am tell you to skinny people look like movie star. Find one suit your taste.
Friday, March 28, 2008
Marriage: multi spouse system
The one man one wife police is totally stupid and not make sense. Who ever thought of such law? Like always, every bad decision have its conquence. In this ‘free’ country, more than 50% marry couple/parents are divoce and remarry. 20% divioce again. Why? Because this world is free. There are 6 billion people in the world, how can we satify with only 1 person? 40 year is a long time, how can someone be other one for more than 40 years. As some people always said, “live the most out of you life”, “discover the world, find new experience.” Imagining a life only with one person would be a waste of life. So those people started to see other person, some people call it ‘affair’. Why is it wrong to seek what him/her desire? When marry, they promise to love the other forever, but seeing someone doesn’t make him no like their spouse. Human have an increabily huge heart. They are capable to love more than one person. Life is about being happy and live to the fullest, love more people, build more memory, cross more desert, life will be over soon. And love is not addition or division. When you found out he love someone else, don’t means he don’t love you, it doesn’t means his loves is share between you and other. Love is like a voltage in a parallel capacitor, they are the same. in mathatmatically, Love1=Love2=Lovetotal.
Government have made law against multi spouse. I am not sure what their reason it, but to my guess is that they want to make man and woman equal, or they think that 1-man-1-wife is the best way that lead to happy ending. Forbiting something doesn’t make it happen. In the multi-spouse relation, man can have more than 1 wife, and woman can also have more husband. Since this is a democray. No one will be force to marry anther. Is a free choice. If a woman love a man so much that she doesn’t mine he have a wife, then it is that woman’s right to decide. The government made law against people marry with more than 2 spouse, but never made any law stopping divorce. Divorce has been the solution for many people who want to have more spouse. They treat marry like a game. In the end, it is the kids who suffer.
Marriage is a compromise. If both person agree that they can see other person, there should not be any law against it. Every family’s story is different, government just aren’t really for individual care, nor mind their business. 50% of the people who had a divorce is because a woman(or man) found out that her(or his) husband(or wife) is cheating on her. And 50% of those people who are cheating still love their wife or husband. However love is build on truth, the man obvilsly lied to his wife. But if he were allow to, he would never lied. This is a topic conversation they should had before they get marry.
Everytime when you break up with someone, do you always feel that this time you have found the right person? Eventually everyone find a new partner after they break up. So what happen if you never break up? Would you get to meet this awesome better person? This is a top reason people break up—to look for someone better. Without breaking up, it would be cheating to look for someone better. Truth is that there is no “the one”, there are many “the one”. But how to decide which one to marry where there are so many to choose from? Marry all of them. Simply. The law made it complicated that we can only choose one. After we choose one, we feel that we should have pick the other one, then it is in this stage the marrage fail.
Sex and Love
- · They are two different things. Totally different
- · One can love other without having sex and have sex without love
- · Sex is a sport, love is a intermate relationship.
- · It won’t make sense to limit someone to only play ping pong with one person.
- · Love is love, sex is sex, how did they ever get connected.
- · Love is showing care and passion, and fear of losing the other. Sex is just pleasure, poking. You can only experience love with certain people, but sex is just a skill. It require practice.
- · Sex in love is to make baby
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