Sincerely, SamHuang
How do you tell when someone is being sincere to you? Do you just have too look at the "sincerely" at the closure? Should people start stating "insincerely" when they don't mean it?
I am never know when someone is being sincere with me or its just a mannerly overly-used quote.
I hear "I miss you", "I'll be back", "let's hangout", "Nice to meet you", "I had a great time" daily. Are those people being sincere with me? my costumer who said they will be back never came back. My best friend saids she miss me, and in turn say to the other 200 people including strangers. Does she mean what she said.
Perhaps this is manner. Being polite require us not to be sincere and lie as much trying to make the other feel better.
I wish i can give you great tips on how to identify insincere people. But i can't. Because I am asking you this question to which obviously don't have the answer for. If I have have the answer and asking you trying to make you look smart and feel better that you have helped me, then i would be insincere.
Monday, May 19, 2008
Sunday, May 11, 2008
Pornography
"Must be 18 (21) or older to enter!"
As it is the law to restiste young teenage from pronography these day. A law without penanlity. I am dare to say that not one person turn away or close the browse from that line of sentence. Kids are breaking the rule. Almost all.
Kids reach pupery eariler now a day. Marriage fall back in age, Dating started in elementry. Kids who are bardly matured started dating at the age of 8, and mastered in bed at age of 15. Have those kids been watching porno? Does those thing come in nature?
If watching people having sex is a crime, then surely perform one would be illegal as well. But have there any law preventing kids having sex? No. Kids can have sex with their peer at any age. Given such freedom and responsible, does it make sense to restrict teen younger than 18 from watching porn?
Going through pupuerty, young teenager exprience many changes--mentally and physically. ( i am writing for a guy's view) As an advice from my doctor, masterbastion is needed during puperty. (i'll skip the detail why. google them or ask your doctor.) Not watching porn, kid would not know how.
In fact, it is not our desire for the kids to follow such 'law'. For a 17-year-old who never watch pornography would not know much about sexuality. The kid would not be fit in to his society nor grown up. I don't think that's what the government would want. They are just doing thing wrongly.
Our society are so open with sexually. Premarital sex is the norm in America. It's the popular culture. And they are suggesting no porn before 18? that's insane.
If they truly think that this 'young age pimping sex' is cause by watch porn, and want to stop this action, then a real action is needed. Something like tracking kid's ip address and prison them if they break the law. Jail the parent as well for not enough control and discipline. Charge rape for sex under 21. Such law will work and stop this activity, but in the same time, America will the least freedom in the world.
Later, not time to write them in detail or make the language more sophisticated. Got final to take!
Time to fix my spelling and grammar above.
As it is the law to restiste young teenage from pronography these day. A law without penanlity. I am dare to say that not one person turn away or close the browse from that line of sentence. Kids are breaking the rule. Almost all.
Kids reach pupery eariler now a day. Marriage fall back in age, Dating started in elementry. Kids who are bardly matured started dating at the age of 8, and mastered in bed at age of 15. Have those kids been watching porno? Does those thing come in nature?
If watching people having sex is a crime, then surely perform one would be illegal as well. But have there any law preventing kids having sex? No. Kids can have sex with their peer at any age. Given such freedom and responsible, does it make sense to restrict teen younger than 18 from watching porn?
Going through pupuerty, young teenager exprience many changes--mentally and physically. ( i am writing for a guy's view) As an advice from my doctor, masterbastion is needed during puperty. (i'll skip the detail why. google them or ask your doctor.) Not watching porn, kid would not know how.
In fact, it is not our desire for the kids to follow such 'law'. For a 17-year-old who never watch pornography would not know much about sexuality. The kid would not be fit in to his society nor grown up. I don't think that's what the government would want. They are just doing thing wrongly.
Our society are so open with sexually. Premarital sex is the norm in America. It's the popular culture. And they are suggesting no porn before 18? that's insane.
If they truly think that this 'young age pimping sex' is cause by watch porn, and want to stop this action, then a real action is needed. Something like tracking kid's ip address and prison them if they break the law. Jail the parent as well for not enough control and discipline. Charge rape for sex under 21. Such law will work and stop this activity, but in the same time, America will the least freedom in the world.
Later, not time to write them in detail or make the language more sophisticated. Got final to take!
Time to fix my spelling and grammar above.
Tuesday, May 6, 2008
Benefit of Dial-up
Dial-up is far from being history. Thought the innovation of technologies--invention of fiber optic, fast speed Internet--phone line dial-up still finds its corner in social environment. The Internet have evolute, but not necessarily all benefitciary. Although dial-up is far slower than the new cable, but its slow speed being patient and mystery.
Depend on the situation, different people will find different view on dial-up. [... it is so hard to writing something so stupid in a essay format, so i am going to list them] Here are the benefit of the dial up:
Depend on the situation, different people will find different view on dial-up. [... it is so hard to writing something so stupid in a essay format, so i am going to list them] Here are the benefit of the dial up:
- In school night, dial up stop uncontrollable/procrastinate students from wasting time on surfing the web.
- With slows speed, that require buffering on youtube every 3 second, are not enjoyable, and therefor student will be force to do their homework and read novels
- Require to dial before getting on the Internet, prevent virus from attacking when the computer is unattended
- New IP address every time going on the Internet, therefore make it difficult for the hacker to stalk.
- When the page is loading slowly, you will read thought the page in detail while its loading
- The slow loading speed give pornography more excitement
- Dial-up is cheaper or free
- Make procrastination impossible
Sunday, April 13, 2008
Plastic Surgery is Ungodly
Plastic Surgery is wrong in many ways. I hope this has already been a universal fact that everyone would agree with me without me explaining any further. However, i highly doubt that everyone would have the same opinion as I do. So without any further ado, I give you the evil of plastic surgery.
(For who those believe in god,) God created us based on how he want us to look. He give everyone a special task, the ugly, the pretty, to be unique in earth. God is not imperfect by making you fat and/or ugly. God did it purposely so you can show what beauty is. Without ugliness, there would be prettiness; the world needs opposition. 'Why is God so unfair' you might think. But, never forget God give everyone a special assignment. You will be rewarded if you done yours right. So by alternating your looks, making small boobs into bigger one, adding an extra boobs, and reshaping your triangular face (oh yeah, plastic surgery don't only happen in boob, whole body can be a plastic!!!), you are denying god.
If that doesn't convince you (or if you don't believe in god), consider this: plastic surgery destroy love and marriage. It have always been a trouble in the heart in searching for the right girl ( in a guy's perspective). There are so many factor to consider. Sometime looks is 100% factor for some people, other maybe 50%, and those who are blind(literally) maybe 10% (they still want to feel the shape thou). So look matter. Let said, you found a beautiful chick and you guys been going out for a while, she feel secure with you and feel like she can tell you anything. So you told you that she have a plastic surgery when she is 14, and that she is made of plastic. You found out he hand you hold, the mouth you kissed, the face you looked at is a doll made by a doctor. I can't say how you will react, but I'll feel that I have been cheated. Under the layer of plastic skin, she is a ugly girl, but that's not the case because for some people looks don't matter. What is important is that you have been going out with a plastic bag. I'll be piss.
A little story: I had a Korean friend who told me that almost everyone older than age 14 in Korea have gone through plastic surgery. I was shock. And he add, even guys too. I fainted. "There was this guy and this girl, they look exactly the same. it was then found out that they have the same surgery doctor." I also learn that when you get to 40ish, there will be a lot of winkles.
I have no clue how the plastic surgery work, so don't ask me, maybe i should start researching. Don't meant to discriminate anyone here. (to those plastic) If God won't take you, and I don't take you, there is still a lot of people who will take you ;]
(For who those believe in god,) God created us based on how he want us to look. He give everyone a special task, the ugly, the pretty, to be unique in earth. God is not imperfect by making you fat and/or ugly. God did it purposely so you can show what beauty is. Without ugliness, there would be prettiness; the world needs opposition. 'Why is God so unfair' you might think. But, never forget God give everyone a special assignment. You will be rewarded if you done yours right. So by alternating your looks, making small boobs into bigger one, adding an extra boobs, and reshaping your triangular face (oh yeah, plastic surgery don't only happen in boob, whole body can be a plastic!!!), you are denying god.
If that doesn't convince you (or if you don't believe in god), consider this: plastic surgery destroy love and marriage. It have always been a trouble in the heart in searching for the right girl ( in a guy's perspective). There are so many factor to consider. Sometime looks is 100% factor for some people, other maybe 50%, and those who are blind(literally) maybe 10% (they still want to feel the shape thou). So look matter. Let said, you found a beautiful chick and you guys been going out for a while, she feel secure with you and feel like she can tell you anything. So you told you that she have a plastic surgery when she is 14, and that she is made of plastic. You found out he hand you hold, the mouth you kissed, the face you looked at is a doll made by a doctor. I can't say how you will react, but I'll feel that I have been cheated. Under the layer of plastic skin, she is a ugly girl, but that's not the case because for some people looks don't matter. What is important is that you have been going out with a plastic bag. I'll be piss.
A little story: I had a Korean friend who told me that almost everyone older than age 14 in Korea have gone through plastic surgery. I was shock. And he add, even guys too. I fainted. "There was this guy and this girl, they look exactly the same. it was then found out that they have the same surgery doctor." I also learn that when you get to 40ish, there will be a lot of winkles.
I have no clue how the plastic surgery work, so don't ask me, maybe i should start researching. Don't meant to discriminate anyone here. (to those plastic) If God won't take you, and I don't take you, there is still a lot of people who will take you ;]
Friday, April 4, 2008
Dominant Trait
Some traits we inhabit are inferior and some are dominant. Dominant trait doesn't means its good, and inferior trait doesn't mean it is bad. I have experience changes in people. Changing is part of an evolution. Evolution? Just because it is controversial doesn't means we can not bring it up. In this society we are constant running aways from problem. Anything that has huge group disagreeableness, we 'discuss it later'. People don't want to offense the other group so they don't put out their position. This is one of the bad dominant trait. People who interact with people in those society would put a shield on them self to be concious and not put say any statement that would hurt other or get themself kill. The attempt to change other's belief doesn't come when their popularity are in sake. Evolution play its role, new born adapted to its environment, pool full of the non-controversial people, and those with the gust to run for president and say "there is no god" gets shut down by the tomato people throw on the presidental campain and lost its valuable trait. controversial topic remain controversial.
Skiping the controversal topic and to the human behavior, something non-controversal, or maybe this whole 'dominant trait' is controversial. When we are growing up, we follows our parent, when are get older some of us lead, and some of us follow. it is all good, all natural. No one person can lead without anyone follow, and same goes that no one can follow without anyone leading. Some of us change from a follower to a leader. The follower simplying get its trait dominated by the dominant trait of the leader. So to be a leader one much exhibit his/her dominant trait.
What is a dominate trait? I use to have a roommate who plays music really loud. so then i started to play music really loud too to cover up his voice. this is an example of a dominant trait. I, who is quite, are getting pushed by loud, and thus got to be loud to push back. When I was a kid, my parent always wants me to hang out with smart people. That isn't because they think that smart people stay out of troble, it is only so that i can used them and abort their trait and then i can be smart as well. You follow, you learn, and then you lead, my mom told me. However, i never listened. I always feel like leading right away. So I hang out with the dumb group. With the dumb people, and me being the smart one, i can teach them and lead them. But then years goes, my follower left me and i was left alone, without the ability to lead anymore. I didn't get dumber, but everyone got smarter so it seems that i got dumber. I lead, I teach, and now I follows. :[ should have listened to my mom.
Skiping the controversal topic and to the human behavior, something non-controversal, or maybe this whole 'dominant trait' is controversial. When we are growing up, we follows our parent, when are get older some of us lead, and some of us follow. it is all good, all natural. No one person can lead without anyone follow, and same goes that no one can follow without anyone leading. Some of us change from a follower to a leader. The follower simplying get its trait dominated by the dominant trait of the leader. So to be a leader one much exhibit his/her dominant trait.
What is a dominate trait? I use to have a roommate who plays music really loud. so then i started to play music really loud too to cover up his voice. this is an example of a dominant trait. I, who is quite, are getting pushed by loud, and thus got to be loud to push back. When I was a kid, my parent always wants me to hang out with smart people. That isn't because they think that smart people stay out of troble, it is only so that i can used them and abort their trait and then i can be smart as well. You follow, you learn, and then you lead, my mom told me. However, i never listened. I always feel like leading right away. So I hang out with the dumb group. With the dumb people, and me being the smart one, i can teach them and lead them. But then years goes, my follower left me and i was left alone, without the ability to lead anymore. I didn't get dumber, but everyone got smarter so it seems that i got dumber. I lead, I teach, and now I follows. :[ should have listened to my mom.
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Danger: Shallow Water - no diving
Shallow is famously used to describe the depth of water and a (stupid?) person. persons who are describe as shallow are define as materialist and not profound, only care about the outer looks. a well example is in a relationship, when a guy say his girlfriend must be sexy, nice boob, apple bottom, cokacola, few nerd/geek/profound-person would mark that guy in the shallow list. of course same things with the girls too. one would have to say 'oh, she have to be sophisticated, care for animal, nice to people' and this guy would get a high rating.
I used to be the nerd who said all those thing: 'looks doesn't really matter, it is the inner self that count'. However after few year until i go to college and experience some experiences in life, i found that i can't be more wrong. i was dead wrong. what is the difference between a girlfriend and a bestfriend? it depend on the person. but if you ugly and have good personality, and all you want to do is talk and not touch, then be their best friend.
"Love at First Sight"- i would discuss if it is truth or not, but a lot of people feel that way. However, isn't such love based on the physical appearance as well? it is even worse-it is only based on the first look. where those the personality come in? well so maybe we can define those 'love at first sight' people as shallow as well.
Now lets talk about feeling and connection. "When i am with her i feel connective to her, I got this feeling that i can say anything." my advice is: be friend. Do you have the feeling that you want to be inside of her? If that's so, then she must have what you define as beautiful. Beauty is not universal. Everyone have their own taste. so if she does have good personality and do look good to your definition, then yes, marriage is a good idea. However, the point i am trying to make is that look does play a big role in a intermate relationship.
Now we come to the the part of shallow people. shallow people thinks that the girl just have to look good, personality don't matter. However they are not truthly shallow. they just have made a big distinction between friend and girl. when looking for friend, they look at their personality and their preferring style. Girl are a trophy. Chase for the excitement and win it to show off. A ugly, non-shining trophy would not get much of a attention. Just because their view of beauty is different from ours or yours, doesn't give us the right to name calling. If we can't even get this fact right, we would really be the shallow one, not them.
Call me shallow or not, but i think the shallow people are actually right. Girl and friend are and should be separative. they can be connect to be girlfriend, which so would require both the quality of a good looking girl, and a quality of good friend. There are so many people in this world. there are at least 10 percent (probably more) that interest you non physically. and then inside the 10 percent, there are at least 1 percent that do look good to your view and taste. 1 percent of the 10 percent in this world is still a huge number. there are a great chance that you'll find someone that you like and love. Do not mistake your friend to be your lover. if you don't think they look good, they are not your lover. And do remember beauty is not universal. So you think that i am tell you to skinny people look like movie star. Find one suit your taste.
I used to be the nerd who said all those thing: 'looks doesn't really matter, it is the inner self that count'. However after few year until i go to college and experience some experiences in life, i found that i can't be more wrong. i was dead wrong. what is the difference between a girlfriend and a bestfriend? it depend on the person. but if you ugly and have good personality, and all you want to do is talk and not touch, then be their best friend.
"Love at First Sight"- i would discuss if it is truth or not, but a lot of people feel that way. However, isn't such love based on the physical appearance as well? it is even worse-it is only based on the first look. where those the personality come in? well so maybe we can define those 'love at first sight' people as shallow as well.
Now lets talk about feeling and connection. "When i am with her i feel connective to her, I got this feeling that i can say anything." my advice is: be friend. Do you have the feeling that you want to be inside of her? If that's so, then she must have what you define as beautiful. Beauty is not universal. Everyone have their own taste. so if she does have good personality and do look good to your definition, then yes, marriage is a good idea. However, the point i am trying to make is that look does play a big role in a intermate relationship.
Now we come to the the part of shallow people. shallow people thinks that the girl just have to look good, personality don't matter. However they are not truthly shallow. they just have made a big distinction between friend and girl. when looking for friend, they look at their personality and their preferring style. Girl are a trophy. Chase for the excitement and win it to show off. A ugly, non-shining trophy would not get much of a attention. Just because their view of beauty is different from ours or yours, doesn't give us the right to name calling. If we can't even get this fact right, we would really be the shallow one, not them.
Call me shallow or not, but i think the shallow people are actually right. Girl and friend are and should be separative. they can be connect to be girlfriend, which so would require both the quality of a good looking girl, and a quality of good friend. There are so many people in this world. there are at least 10 percent (probably more) that interest you non physically. and then inside the 10 percent, there are at least 1 percent that do look good to your view and taste. 1 percent of the 10 percent in this world is still a huge number. there are a great chance that you'll find someone that you like and love. Do not mistake your friend to be your lover. if you don't think they look good, they are not your lover. And do remember beauty is not universal. So you think that i am tell you to skinny people look like movie star. Find one suit your taste.
Friday, March 28, 2008
Marriage: multi spouse system
The one man one wife police is totally stupid and not make sense. Who ever thought of such law? Like always, every bad decision have its conquence. In this ‘free’ country, more than 50% marry couple/parents are divoce and remarry. 20% divioce again. Why? Because this world is free. There are 6 billion people in the world, how can we satify with only 1 person? 40 year is a long time, how can someone be other one for more than 40 years. As some people always said, “live the most out of you life”, “discover the world, find new experience.” Imagining a life only with one person would be a waste of life. So those people started to see other person, some people call it ‘affair’. Why is it wrong to seek what him/her desire? When marry, they promise to love the other forever, but seeing someone doesn’t make him no like their spouse. Human have an increabily huge heart. They are capable to love more than one person. Life is about being happy and live to the fullest, love more people, build more memory, cross more desert, life will be over soon. And love is not addition or division. When you found out he love someone else, don’t means he don’t love you, it doesn’t means his loves is share between you and other. Love is like a voltage in a parallel capacitor, they are the same. in mathatmatically, Love1=Love2=Lovetotal.
Government have made law against multi spouse. I am not sure what their reason it, but to my guess is that they want to make man and woman equal, or they think that 1-man-1-wife is the best way that lead to happy ending. Forbiting something doesn’t make it happen. In the multi-spouse relation, man can have more than 1 wife, and woman can also have more husband. Since this is a democray. No one will be force to marry anther. Is a free choice. If a woman love a man so much that she doesn’t mine he have a wife, then it is that woman’s right to decide. The government made law against people marry with more than 2 spouse, but never made any law stopping divorce. Divorce has been the solution for many people who want to have more spouse. They treat marry like a game. In the end, it is the kids who suffer.
Marriage is a compromise. If both person agree that they can see other person, there should not be any law against it. Every family’s story is different, government just aren’t really for individual care, nor mind their business. 50% of the people who had a divorce is because a woman(or man) found out that her(or his) husband(or wife) is cheating on her. And 50% of those people who are cheating still love their wife or husband. However love is build on truth, the man obvilsly lied to his wife. But if he were allow to, he would never lied. This is a topic conversation they should had before they get marry.
Everytime when you break up with someone, do you always feel that this time you have found the right person? Eventually everyone find a new partner after they break up. So what happen if you never break up? Would you get to meet this awesome better person? This is a top reason people break up—to look for someone better. Without breaking up, it would be cheating to look for someone better. Truth is that there is no “the one”, there are many “the one”. But how to decide which one to marry where there are so many to choose from? Marry all of them. Simply. The law made it complicated that we can only choose one. After we choose one, we feel that we should have pick the other one, then it is in this stage the marrage fail.
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