Shallow is famously used to describe the depth of water and a (stupid?) person. persons who are describe as shallow are define as materialist and not profound, only care about the outer looks. a well example is in a relationship, when a guy say his girlfriend must be sexy, nice boob, apple bottom, cokacola, few nerd/geek/profound-person would mark that guy in the shallow list. of course same things with the girls too. one would have to say 'oh, she have to be sophisticated, care for animal, nice to people' and this guy would get a high rating.
I used to be the nerd who said all those thing: 'looks doesn't really matter, it is the inner self that count'. However after few year until i go to college and experience some experiences in life, i found that i can't be more wrong. i was dead wrong. what is the difference between a girlfriend and a bestfriend? it depend on the person. but if you ugly and have good personality, and all you want to do is talk and not touch, then be their best friend.
"Love at First Sight"- i would discuss if it is truth or not, but a lot of people feel that way. However, isn't such love based on the physical appearance as well? it is even worse-it is only based on the first look. where those the personality come in? well so maybe we can define those 'love at first sight' people as shallow as well.
Now lets talk about feeling and connection. "When i am with her i feel connective to her, I got this feeling that i can say anything." my advice is: be friend. Do you have the feeling that you want to be inside of her? If that's so, then she must have what you define as beautiful. Beauty is not universal. Everyone have their own taste. so if she does have good personality and do look good to your definition, then yes, marriage is a good idea. However, the point i am trying to make is that look does play a big role in a intermate relationship.
Now we come to the the part of shallow people. shallow people thinks that the girl just have to look good, personality don't matter. However they are not truthly shallow. they just have made a big distinction between friend and girl. when looking for friend, they look at their personality and their preferring style. Girl are a trophy. Chase for the excitement and win it to show off. A ugly, non-shining trophy would not get much of a attention. Just because their view of beauty is different from ours or yours, doesn't give us the right to name calling. If we can't even get this fact right, we would really be the shallow one, not them.
Call me shallow or not, but i think the shallow people are actually right. Girl and friend are and should be separative. they can be connect to be girlfriend, which so would require both the quality of a good looking girl, and a quality of good friend. There are so many people in this world. there are at least 10 percent (probably more) that interest you non physically. and then inside the 10 percent, there are at least 1 percent that do look good to your view and taste. 1 percent of the 10 percent in this world is still a huge number. there are a great chance that you'll find someone that you like and love. Do not mistake your friend to be your lover. if you don't think they look good, they are not your lover. And do remember beauty is not universal. So you think that i am tell you to skinny people look like movie star. Find one suit your taste.